Some Child Psychologists Say You Should Stop Telling Your Kids “No”…Is This Going Too Far?

                              

However, this doesn’t mean that children should be allowed to run wild. Here are some tips from experts that you can use to foster positive parenting interactions with your child.

1. Use positive terms to respond to questions.

Phrase responses so that you’re telling children what they can do instead of what they can’t do. Say that they can play later or have one cookie instead of giving them an outright “no.”

2. Talk about what you’re feeling.

Instead of just saying “stop” or “no,” explain why you don’t like something in age-appropriate terms. Tell them that it hurts when they hit you or that the noise they’re making affects your concentration. This kind of dialogue helps develop kids’ empathy for others.

3. Give kids a choice between two things that they can do.

Instead of saying, “No bouncing the ball in the house,” provide a choice between two other locations. “You can bounce the ball in the backyard or in the driveway. Which would you like?” This often stops kids from responding in a rebellious way.

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One Woman’s Powerful Story Will Inspire You To Treat Your Body Right

                                            <b>Fat is not a feeling.</b>                                                            

1. Caroline Rothstein is an amazing writer, spoken word performer, and body empowerment activist. This is her story.

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3. At a young age, Rothstein became self-conscious of her body.

4. “I remember standing at the bar in ballet class, looking in the mirror and comparing my body to everyone else’s.”

5. She began to use food to cope with her emotional anxieties and subsequently struggled with an eating disorder for a full decade.

6. After years of abuse, she had an important epiphany:

 

7. “Everyone only gets one body in their lifetime. I knew I had to start treating mine differently,” she realized. From that day forward, she resolved to love her body for the rest of her life.

8. Recovery is hard and, “like peeling layers from an onion.”

9. As she began to seek a healthier way to deal with her emotions, Rothstein realized that the world tells bodies not to love themselves through all kinds of oppressions.

10. But loving your body is still a choice. And even though Rothstein chooses to loves her body, there are still moments that are difficult.

11. “Sometimes I feel fat. And when I think I feel fat, I remember that fat is not a feeling.”

12. So when you feel body dissatisfaction, remember that it’s not a real feeling.

13. Your body is a miracle.

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